From one gay to another

my girlfriend is hardcore femme and i'm tomboyfemme. However its seriously driving me nuts. It makes me feel so fkn inferior& lazy don't get me wrong its nice to dress up and look pretty but most of the time I just want to see her relaxed and more laid back. She's taking me to the beach right now and she's DRESSING UP AS IF WE'RE GOING TO OLIVE GARDEN WTF T__T I just want to tell her straight out WHY THE HELL CAN'T YOU JUST WEAR SHORTS AND A BIKINI. Simple and straight forward NOTHING FANCY!

Sun, 03 Mar 2013 01:37:46 -0500

Hi. I’m sorry. I left tumblr for a while for personal reasons, please understand, but I’ll answer this anyway. Let her know gently that it’s okay to cut it loose sometimes and no one, especially you, will judge her, especially if you love her no matter how she looks. Regarding stereotypes, I suppose I’m femme or Lipstick, but more in a casual way and I know when its time to be foot loose and fancy free. I even keep a pair of sweats in my girlfriend’s car. Make sure she understands that you think she’s beautiful, sweats or a dress, make up or no, and maybe then she’ll cut loose

I'm a virgin and i'm really sacred when a guy enters me he will feel extrement inside me or it will come out.

Tue, 03 Jul 2012 01:12:05 -0400

Keep yourself clean. Personal hygene. Use a condom, lube, be safe and sanitary, especially because it’s your first time.

Hey, kids

Thu, 24 May 2012 16:19:25 -0400

Sorry, I haven’t answered any questions in a while. I haven’t logged onto tumblr lately. If you asked for advice, it should’ve been answered, so you can take a gander, if you like.

I have tried to finger myself but I just don't know what to do :/ I have never made myself cum using my fingers. I then moved on to vibrators, which worked for a while, I used to get orgasms from it. Now the vibrator takes ages to give me an orgasm, what should I do? and also I am scared that if I ever get with a girl I wouldn't know how to please her, I can't even help myself?

Thu, 24 May 2012 16:17:40 -0400

If you masturbate too much, you’ll eventually grow bored with yourself. These tricks work great on both you and your partner: ever heard of the G-spot? If you insert your fingers into your vagina, palm facing up, it’s a little spongey spot about half way in. It feels kind of like the roof of your mouth, but softer. If you can find that, any girl will be in control. It’s an amazing pleasure point. When you find it, try making a “come over here” motion with your fingers. Two fingers work just fine. (three usually hurt) Also, when she’s about to climax, push softly on her lower abdomen, between her belly button and vagina. It helps relax her bladder. I know that sound bad, but trust me. If she’s relaxed and comfortable enough, she’ll lady-ejaculate, or “squirt.” It’s a colourless, tasteless liquid that comes out of the same place urine does, but it’s not urine, not even close, and if she does this, that means you’ve done a good job. For masturbating, try going slow and working your way up. Don’t even use the toy. Stimulate your clit with your finger, slowly. Work your way to moving faster, putting your fingers inside, up to using the toy. Climaxes are better when you drag it all out. Hope this helps.

I'm bisexual and my mom kind of knows? I told her awhile back and I guess she's ok with it. That's not my issue though. I don't know if I'm bisexual anymore.. I don't know if I'm Lesbian.. I feel like it? I really don't know. I know I don't feel normal. My mom knows but my dad doesn't, nor does my mom's bf (Allegedly he/his family would be all freaked out.) I don't know who/what I am, and besides that, I feel ashamed of my sexuality. :(

Thu, 24 May 2012 16:07:08 -0400

You should never feel ashamed of who you are. You need to be proud that you’re brave enough to accept who you are, despite what society tells you. Your moms boyfriend should never have a say in your sexuality. Who cares if he or his family freaks out? You are who you are. If you’re a lesbian, then great. Go for it. Kiss a girl. Be some lucky girls amazing girlfriend. Who gives a shit what other people think? Be yourself. That’s nothing to be ashamed of (:

Hi. I think i might be bisexual, but i don't know how to tell for sure. I think I like another girl, but i've talked myself into liking people in the past (boys) and I don't know if i'm doing the same thing here. how can I know, if I've never kissed a boy or girl, and the girl i think I like is straight?

Thu, 24 May 2012 16:02:07 -0400

You can know which gender you like without having sex. The genitals isn’t the part that matters when it comes to affection and feelings. It’s the act, the smell, the feel, shape and sounds. If you had to talk yourself into liking guys, then how do you know you even like them? Figuring something like this out takes time, not sex, so be patient and go with what feels right.

Hey, I'm really confused..I'm thinking I'm bi-curious, not bi-sexual. I know I love guys, but when I think about kissing, touching, or sex, I think about girls too. What does this mean? Am I bi? I don't want to be since my friends have had creepy experiences with lesbians, so I don't want to lose them. Plus it's just scary. I'm so worried.

Thu, 24 May 2012 15:56:36 -0400

Your sexuality isn’t something to be scared of or worried about. You need to go with what feels right to you. As long as you don’t hit on your friends, then there shouldn’t be a reason for them to think you’re creepy. In some ways, we’re all a little bi-sexual. In your case, I think it’s mostly your curiosity. That’s completely normal. You’re growing up, your sex drive is becoming apparent. If you think you’re bi, maybe you are. Sometimes, though, people think they’re one thing and wind up being something completely different. Don’t hide your sexuality just because you’re scared of what other people will think, though.

So recently i came to the realization that i am gay/bi. Everyone thinks I am a straight guy, ive told a couple of people that I wasn't and yeah. but I have this crush on one of my straight guy friends, and he's all I can think about and ugh, I get angry with myself because I know that nothing will ever happen. He's very touchy and I'm not sure he's completely straight either. He's kinda douchey to everyone else, except me, and I find it odd. What should I do?

Thu, 24 May 2012 15:50:37 -0400

Ah, the good ol’ cliche “Jack ass with a soft spot.” which I think this might be the case. With guys, it’s much more of a touchy subject because guys tend to be more homophobic than girls are. If he’s touchy-feely with you, it may be because he’s a bit curious. Curiosity doesn’t always mean “I’m going to try it once and be done.” If you haven’t done it yet, this should be the person you come out to. That should be your first step. Second is admitting your feelings. If he turns out to be straight and he’s a good friend, he’ll handle it well and mature. If he freaks the fuck out, he isn’t worth your time as a friend.

I am completely ashamed of my state for passing Amendment One.

Tue, 08 May 2012 22:55:27 -0400

It’s not just about gay rights. Any couples not “properly” married loses their union benifits. My girlfriend is losing her medical insurrence because her parents aren’t married. I’m so fucking upset.

I am completely ashamed of my state for passing Amendment one.

Tue, 08 May 2012 22:52:54 -0400

I'm bisexual, and I have a very conservative Catholic mom. I'm scared to tell her, but I really want to because I've been harboring this secret for a long time. So how should I do this?

Thu, 03 May 2012 20:32:07 -0400

I think you should ask your mom if she would love you no matter what. Ask to talk to her privetly. Then gently tell her. “Mom, I’m bisexual.” usually does the trick. If she becomes upset, assure her she hasn’t failed as a parent, and prove to her that you’re still a great kid, because even though your sexuality really has nothing to do with your attitude, your mom may think it does. Her reaction is completely unpredictable. I’m only saying this because my girlfriend almost got kicked out when she told her mother: before you break it to your mom, make sure you have someplace to go in case your mom is one of those really bad Catholics. And remember that despite what anyone may say to you, remember that you’re the one who chooses how to live your life. No one else. Good luck, sweetie. (:

You are so amazing! can I ask you a question? do you think that a lesbian relationship can work if both people cant go over to each other's homes? we're both in college, been together for 3 years but my parents hate her, her parents hate me. We're both not welcomed at each other's homes so we basically go on dates as much as we can. We're planning for our future but I'm scared

Thu, 03 May 2012 06:05:20 -0400

Well, thank you. And if you’ve been together that long despite your parents, I’m sure you can figure out a way. My girlfriend’s mom absolutely despises me, but we’re still making it work. If your parents hate your relationship because of homophobia, rather than hatred to the actually person, I don’t think it’s really a good idea to try to make them like you, because it’ll more than likely be a lost cause. As long as you two can live through it, you’re good. Think very long and hard about spending the rest of your life with her. Keep in mind, that even though your parents may disapprove, it’s still your life and you’re the one to decide how to live it.

Today marks the day my girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 22:13:16 -0400

I just thought I’d let you all know.

Hey, I'm a female (physically and mentally) and I identify as pansexual. Lately when I imagine my future family, I naturally picture a wife and kids and it feels off to imagine a husband. I still find men attractive physically, and I've genuinely loved a man as much as I genuinely loved a woman, so why do you think having kids with a man feels weird to me?

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:24:40 -0400

Because I’m sure the same rules (for lack of a better term) may apply with pansexuals as they do with bisexuals. It’s most likely you have more of a preference to women than you do to any other gender. That doesn’t make you a lesbian, because you still have an attraction to other genders. It’s not weird though. It’s normal to feel more attracted to one gender.

Howdy, Well Recently I have come under some scrutiny from my Naborhoods LGBTA group, Well Last week the group I was part of started to promote the Democratic campaign, My First response was to ask "What about Republican members?" the man I was talking to made the statement "No True Gay Man would be a republican" Now of course I am a Log Cabin Republican so we got into an Argument over wither I was Truly Gay, Well word got around and I was kicked from the group. Now is this right? I'm Offended.

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:21:14 -0400

No. It’s not right. It’s quite possible for you to be gay and republican, just as it is possible for someone to be gay and Christian. No one can decide wheter or not you’re truly gay, except you. If we all followed gay stareotypes, then I guess I should go cut my hair short and wrap an ace bandage around my boobs in order for me to be a “rea”l lesbian. Your opinions don’t define your sexuality. Honestly, if I were you, I wouldn’t go back to that group because they’re being very hypocritical. An LGBT group is supposed to be about tollerance, and you’re being discriminated because of your political views.

This is for the girl who asked about her sexuality. I'm not going to put names because of her requested privacy.

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 22:26:19 -0400

I tried to answer privetly but it wouldn’t let me, because my iPod is stupid. Also, your question dissapeared. I still feel like I should answer though.

It could be possible that you’re bisexual. One of the hardest things to do is to come out to yourself. Don’t rush to conclusions, and don’t stress over how your parents may react either, especially since you don’t know for sure, yet. Figuring out your sexuality is something you need to ease into. The realization can be shocking, depending on how you were raised. The best thing to do is to be yourself. If you think you have feelings towards a girl, then try acting on it because with both a boy and a girl, you’ll never know if you like it until you experience it. I’m not saying try having sex, I’m saying if you feel like you like a girl, try asking her out. Act on your feelings (:

I just want to let you all know that you’re beautiful.

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 10:42:26 -0400

I just want to let you all know that you’re beautiful.

well now you know someone on tumblr :D well not like know know but you know what i mean lol

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 20:42:55 -0400

I know what you mean, yes.

whats your name? if you dont mind me asking.. you look like an old friend of mine

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 20:23:56 -0400

Marlee. Probably not, though. I hardly know anyone on tumblr.

can't see your face >.< [:

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 19:49:14 -0400

There’s nothin’ to see, really. X3